Mara Prose Monday: Let’s talk about the victim mentality

Of course, everyone is well aware that I am a huge Game of Thrones fan.  I am so die hard, I believe I am a member of almost every Game of Thrones fan group on Facebook.

In one of my groups, a complaint was made that it is very apparent that George R.R. Martin is not a part of the writing process for the remaining seasons.  The complainer offered proof for his case by stating that if he was, the characters would die due to mistakes they made and not just meet their demise to speed along the story.  He/she felt the earlier seasons made the characters pay direly for their mistakes due to poor decision making.

This made me think, does life happen to us or because of the decisions we make?  Are we destined or do we have free will to change our fates?

I am not embarrassed to say I grew up pretty sheltered and spoiled rotten.  This continued into my marriage, where I always had someone to fall back on who would clean up the consequences for the mistake I would make; thus I never learned the repercussions of my actions.

One of the most valuable lessons I have learned about being on my own is there is no reward in playing the victim.  We are all accustomed to saying ‘life is a bitch’.  If you really think about it, it’s really not.  Every action has a reaction; the wrong action has a consequence.  Free will allows us to make our own life choices.  if we choose wrong, if we are not living on the up and up, and if we are trying to cheat the system – life will be a bitch.

I do believe in destiny.  I wholly believe that we are destined for great things in our life.  However, it is all about how we plan to reach that destiny – we can take the easy way or the hard way.  If you choose to ignore the signs that encourage you to reach your destiny, it will still remain there – you just will never reach it.

Today I encourage you to take a good hard look at your life.  If you feel the world is against you, like you just cannot get ahead in life – you need to look within.  If you are stuck in a vicious cycle of nothing but problem, after problem, after problem – you need re-calibrate and start making better decisions in life.

I will be honest, I had to learn the hard way most of my life.  I was a know-it-all, extremely stubborn and determined to forge my own path.  It still has resulted in me remaining on my path to my destiny but it has been a difficult journey when it could have been so much easier.  These days, I’d much rather follow the voices of wisdom I have in my life rather than repeat the same mistakes.

So I leave my Prosers with this message: leave the victim mentality behind and start taking responsibility for your actions.  Man up and get yourself together!

Until next time,

Author Mara Prose

One response to “Mara Prose Monday: Let’s talk about the victim mentality”

  1. Brenton Travis Avatar
    Brenton Travis

    Destiny is a very real thing. Consider that each of us have a unique set of skills, gifts, and abilities suited to a particular function. This is infallible proof that we each have a destiny. In order to reach our full potential, we have to develop consistently and make choices to direct us towards our destiny. Being a free moral agent requires accountability, and thus, the risk of taking detours away from our purpose is inherent in the choices we make. Victims fail because they make excuses – a way to avoid accountability. Winners fail, but they learn and do better.

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